"So much of our lives involves making decisions that have consequences for the future, " says Loewenstein. This quote reflects directly on empathy gap. You never really know how you will react unless u are put in a certain situation. I remember one time my sister got into a fight and when I heard about it I got really upset and wanted to confront the girl. All I kept telling my mom was "Ma I don't care about what she says, as soon as I see her I am going to let her know exactly how i feel" A couple of days later the girl came to my house to apologize. I didn't quite know how to react but I knew that I didn't want to put my hands on her. I'm not sure if I felt bad but I know I didn't want to do something that would get me in trouble with the law. I thought about how calm the girl was and how calm I was before she stepped in my house and that influenced my decision and calmed my rage down.
Gilbert claims that we have a defense system that helps us feel better when bad things happen. I strongly agree with this statement mainly because of some personal experiences. Last week I lost my cousin Darlyn. We grew up together and were very much alike from our looks to our sense of style. When he passed away I was devastated. I still don't think I will ever get over it but depending on what I'm doing or who's around me my sorrow is hidden. While it's hidden I tend to feel better about this tragedy and the sadness I have within. I tend to smile and laugh even tho in the back of my head only know what I'm going through. They say "Only time can heal a broken heart" but I disagree, it's up to you whether you want to get over things and feel better about the bad things that cross your path. Your happiness is in your hands and you don't even know it.
I only saw one error and it was in the third line you used the letter "u" instead of the whole word but other than that this blog is extremely good. I am happy to hear that you didnt let your emotion take control of your actions and that you made the correct choice as for the second paragraph loosing someone close to you can be very hard but you are strong and im glad to see you are smiling even tho it probably isnt that easy to go on your day knowing you lost someone great in your life, i heard about him & we used to go to the same J.H school, i dont remember him but i heard he was a good guy but may he R.I.P and i hope that you keep being strong and mature about the things that happen in your life. You did a good job with this blog! :)
ReplyDeleteI'm really sorry about your cousin, thats really unfortunate. But your blog I love. I think you explained the empathy gap almost perfectly, & i know exactly what you must have been feeling. Its hard when you're so mad at someone & filled with basically rage, & then they come & apologize! I also totally agree with letting go of things being more up to you, then time.
ReplyDeletehi emely, im sorry for your loss.
ReplyDeletei believe its true when they say only time can heal a broken heart because in time you get used to the circumstances of facts. Your loss will be hidden in your heart somewhere but you can create your own happiness.
Hi Emely,
ReplyDeleteI'm very sorry to hear about your cousin. That is such a deep loss.
Your blog gave good examples to support your ideas. I think providing a clear intro, clear definitions of the ideas you are discussing and then making the connections more obvious would take this to the next level!
Gilbert's immune defense system doesn't work immediately, as you had to discover last week, unfortunately. But perhaps, as the weeks and months and years go by, yours will help you recover from the sadness while keeping the memories and love alive. I know you will find future happiness.
I'll be thinking of you and your family during this sad time.
@Dianelsie: I didn't even notice that I used "u" instead of "you" thanx a lot.
ReplyDelete@Gabrielle: I know. It is extremely difficult to put things behind you after feeling the way you did but sometimes it's better to get over it and move on. It made me feel good about myself after.
@Gulcin: I agree. I feel sad deep inside my heart but I have to be the one to stay positiive and make sure that Im happy.
@Dr.McCormick: I will recover and Im in the process right now. It also helps a lot to keep optimistic. Thank you.